Hello. My name is Peter Graham and my history as a counsellor and a coach goes back a long way. It has been driven by a strong desire to help others and myself to grow personally and spiritually. Click here to go to my home page.
I am not a psychologist. I was trained and worked as a pastoral counsellor in the 1970's. I was a registered marriage celebrant in Australia, and I trained and supervised other counsellors and also supervised (part time) a drug and alcohol recovery program for about two years. I moved on from that period completely and for the last 30 plus years I have been deeply involved in counselling and coaching and also training in both a full time and part time capacity with some gaps here and there.
My focus over the last 30+ years has essentially been personal and spiritual growth and in learning, developing and using techniques to help people to "clear their stuff". For a long time, I simply used the term clearing to describe the general field that I worked in (which included things like emotional clearing, trauma clearing, karma clearing, etc.). I used integrative clearing to describe my work, which conveys the concept of helping individuals to become more integrated or whole through the overall process of clearing and healing.
Integrative clearing consists of techniques, methods, processes and procedures that are all designed to clear (resolve, dissolve, become free of or eliminate) things such as unwanted reactions (involuntary responses), negative feelings and emotions, limiting or self-defeating beliefs, and unresolved traumas and upsets, and others.
At any point during the last 30 or so years, my "clearing toolkit" consisted of the clearing techniques and processes that I was currently using and occassionally used. The techniques and processes in my toolkit have gradually changed over the years as new or more effective techniques emerged, with other techniques falling by the wayside when no longer needed.
Since the mid-eighties, I have done original research in developing some new clearing methods and enhancing some earlier techniques, wrote numerous articles on the subject of clearing and have had articles published in three overseas personal and spiritual growth publications (The Journal of Metapsychology, The Free Spirit Journal magazine, and International Viewpoints magazine). In the mid-to-late eighties, I mainly focused my research on working with beliefs and examined how and where our beliefs come from and also their roles in personal issues, limiting comfort zones, etc. I later wrote an article on what beliefs are, various types of beliefs, where they come from, their pervasive influence in all aspects of our lives, and the whole process of an "idea" becoming a "belief". This examination of beliefs was a major turning point in my life.
I was a member of the Institute for Research in Metapsychology (IRM) since 1989, now called Applied Metapsychology International (AMI) which was founded by American psychiatrist Dr Frank Gerbode (author of the book "Beyond Psychology: An Introduction to Metapsychology"). Metapsychology means "beyond psychology" and is a study of the relationship between body, mind and spirit. Applied Metapsychology International trains people on the Traumatic Incident Reduction (TIR) procedure as well as other clearing techniques. TIR is a method that can be used to reduce and resolve the lasting effects of traumatic experiences. TIR has some similarities to the EFT technique called the "Tell the Story" technique (as a primary part of TIR is telling the story).
Over the last 20 years, I have also had a very strong interest in healing relationships and gradually developed and refined my skills as a relationship coach. I consistently found that it wasn't always enough to help a client to only resolve his/her emotional issues (in counselling) as some relationship situations also required some education and coaching to help find and implement workable and practical solutions to real life problems. This finally lead to my Relationship Skills workshop.
Prior to the year 2000, I learnt, developed and used well over sixty different techniques and processes for working with and resolving personal issues, negative emotions and feelings, limiting or destructive beliefs, and painful memories or traumas, etc. Then, in the year 2000, I came across the Emotional Freedom Techniques. I was on several internet mailing lists at the time and, during that year, EFT was mentioned a number of times (by people around the world whom I respected) as a technique that was worth looking into. In November 2000, I had the opportunity to do a one-day workshop in EFT and I enrolled for it (not knowing exactly what it was at that time).
I did the workshop. It took me a few months of trying EFT out and testing it (with myself and some friends and clients who were willing to try something new) before I began to realize just what I had found. I even felt a little threatened by it as I thought I already had "the best clearing toolkit in town". It seemed rather weird at first and I had to get over that too. But, it worked almost every time I used it - and often surprisingly quickly. Back then, I didn't know what to do when it didn't work. I did a second EFT workshop in January 2001 and, within a few months, EFT became my primary clearing technique as its consistent effectiveness was undeniable.
My learning continued during 2001 by obtaining and watching Gary Craig's "The EFT Course" videos and by gaining lots of experience using it with myself, friends and clients. I learnt that EFT stands for Emotional Freedom Techniques (plural) and that EFT was not just the simple tapping technique that it first appeared to be. It was actually a well-developed and comprehensive emotional healing approach, and this same tapping technique (or a shortcut version of it) is used as part of all of the other special-purpose EFT techniques. Whatever type of issue is being focused and worked on with EFT, tapping on certain acupressure points (to stimulate the body's energy system) is a central part of it.
The Emotional Freedom Techniques have earnt my respect in a number of significant ways:
I also came across the book "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle around 2003. Its conceptual framework, simple truths and powerful exercises have benefited me enormously. In my opinion, the Emotional Freedom Techniques and The Power of Now make a great combination. My own observation is that I have experienced more personal and spiritual growth in the last ten years than in the previous thirty (even though I seriously worked on my personal growth through most of that period).
What about the other clearing techniques and processes in my toolkit?
I maintain my focus and purpose to help people to clear their stuff and I always seek to use the best clearing techniques available. EFT has made a number of the techniques in my "clearing tool kit" redundant. Of the clearing techniques or processes that I still use, I often (but not always) use some of them with EFT rather than instead of EFT. Some are particularly useful in bringing up underlying or buried "aspects" (specific components or parts of a complex problem) to the surface, at which point, each such aspect can then be "tapped on" and efficiently resolved with EFT.
I attended two workshops on the Emotional Freedom Techniques (November 2000 and January 2001), added EFT to my "clearing toolkit" and have been using EFT consistently with my clients since January 2001. Around the middle of 2001, I obtained "The EFT Course" set of videos and I have never looked back. This set of videos was brilliant and eye-opening. Since then, I have used EFT successfully with over 700 private clients and have used it effectively many thousands of times. I have also done well over 100 live demonstrations of EFT, including two sessions at the EFT Masters Showcase (Sydney) in October 2007. EFT continues to amaze me.
To expand my knowledge along the way, I also paid for and got trained in several other "energy techniques" (which I also selectively use at times): Be Set Free Fast (January 2001), Thought Field Therapy (April 2003) and the Tapas Acupressure Technique (November 2003). I have looked into and "played with" a number of other energy techniques also.
Of all these energy techniques, EFT is by far the standout due to its consistent effectiveness, its capacity to heal emotional issues more thoroughly and deeply, its ease of use, and its amazing flexibility (i.e. the breadth, depth and range of things that it can be used for).
I had the privilege of attending a 4-day EFT Master's Workshop in San Francisco with Gary Craig in November 2005. In December 2006, I was officially recognized as an EFT Master, the highest EFT credential, and it was announced in Gary Craig's EFT Insights Newsletter on January 26, 2007. There are about 30 certified EFT Masters worldwide with only three in Australia and one in New Zealand. The EFT Masters have their own web site and newsletter which are of great interest to those who are keen to further develop their EFT skills. Subscribe now!
Although the basic EFT tapping technique can be learnt in less than an hour, there is still much more to learn about the Emotional Freedom Techniques, including how to use it with specific types of issues, what to do when a problem is resistant or challenging, how to break a complex or multi-layered problem down into its parts (aspects), and much more. I am still learning after over ten years. But, it's very easy to get started with EFT by learning the basic tapping technique and getting some great results straight away, and then you can gradually add to your skills and build confidence as you go.
To contact me, you can either email me or ring me directly on (08) 9487 8363. My office is in Subiaco (a suburb of Perth) in Western Australia.
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Registered business name: P D Graham Enterprises Pty Ltd. ABN: 12 081 077 590
Last updated: 12th of December 2014
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